So, You Think You Have The Perfect Relationship?
By Tim Connor Is there such a thing as a perfect relationship? If so what does it look like? First lets define perfect. Perfect excellent or complete beyond practical or theoretical improvement. Want more? Flawless, ideal yada, yada, yada. If you tell me you have a perfect relationship what you are saying indirectly is that both of you are perfect. Relationships are independent entities that are created when two people come together whether in marriage or any other type of arrangement. A relationship cant be perfect because everything in nature has flaws or could improve in some way. Sooner or later we just have to learn to find joy in an imperfect sunset, mountain vista or child. Ask any grandmother and their grandson is perfect in every way. Ask anyone in love and they will say their mate is perfect. Compared to what? Is it really perfection or is it our view, attitudes, outlook, experience etc. that makes things perfect? Perfection is a perception and perceptions depend on a variety of factors; age, experience, gender, life outlook, goals and attitudes to mention just a few. When a lover looks into the eyes of his or her new love they see only what they want to see perfection. They tend to be willing or able to overlook perceived (personal opinions) flaws or faults in the beginning. But as time passes many of these same issues, traits or behaviors can become a source of aggravation and even conflict. If all of this psycho mumbo jumbo is true, and I believe it is my perception then is there are no such things as perfect relationships just degrees of perfection based on the peoples willingness to overlook certain factors, behaviors or attitudes. When I have asked if people have an ideal or perfect relationship I hear things like: -He/she understands me. (All of the time? Every time? Come on lets be honest here.) -He/she is awesome (Come on now could you still be in the infatuation stage?) -We have everything in common. (This can get a little boring dont you think!) -We never argue about anything. (Give me a break!) -Our relationship is in a good place now. (What about last week or last year or next week or next year?) -Flexibility and compromise are the bywords of our relationship. (Every time yea - right!) -I love everything about him or her. (Some stuff just hasnt surfaced yet, just give it time folks.) -We can talk about anything without conflict. (I hate to call people liars, but) So, are there perfect relationships? No, because there are no perfect people. Are there successful relationships? Yes, millions of them. What is the difference between perfect and successful? Re-read the previous paragraph and you will now see the difference. Here, Ill help you. - He/she understands me. (No - he or she doesnt but can accept you for who you are anyway.) - We have everything in common. (It is the ability to manage differences in relationships that counts.) - We never argue about anything. (We can have conflict without invalidating each other.) - Our relationship is in a good place now. (Good is defined as the present. We stay focused on what is now - not what was, has been or could be.) - Flexibility and compromise are the bywords of our relationship. (We keep our ego in check.) - I love everything about him or her. (I dont like everything but it is who she/he is and I can learn to love unconditionally.) - We can talk about anything without conflict. (We have learned to be honest with feelings and opinions without the need to be right or challenge each other.) Dont tell me you have a perfect relationship. Tell me you have a relationship that is getting better every day little by little because each of you are learning the skills necessary to improve it. Or it is getting worse every day. Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, Thats Life, Peace Of Mind, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He is also the CEO of Sales Clubs Of America. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at http://www.timconnor.com or http://www.SalesClubsOfAmerica.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tim_Connor http://EzineArticles.com/?So,-You-Think-You-Have-The-Perfect-Relationship?&id=513847 phentermine no prior prescription required where to buy phentermine 37.5 phentermine overseas pharmacy tree top pharmacy phentermine
